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How to Word a Wedding Invitation

Wedding Invitations

Wedding invitation created for Christina and David

After picking the stationery, it’s time to plan how to communicate with the guests through invitations. Whether you want something traditional or whimsical, there are basic elements you need to include in an invite. We’re sharing tips on how to word a wedding invitation to announce your big day.

How to Word a Wedding Invitation

When writing an invitation, you must tell crucial information about the wedding, including the couple’s name, wedding date, time, locations of the ceremony and reception, and dress code. You also have to recognize the wedding host. In addition, you must convey a tone, whether traditional or casual.

Crafting an invitation also means considering etiquette rules while ensuring the words reflect your wedding day’s overall vibe. As I design your one-of-a-kind stationery at Laura Damiano Designs, you can start writing what information to include in a wedding invitation.

Stationary created for Katelyn and John's wedding

Design Elements

Among the best parts of creating a wedding invitation is personalizing it with monograms, symbols, and phrases. Such elements add fun to the overall design of your invites. You can use phrases like “getting hitched”, “we do”, always and forever”, or “to love and to cherish”.

The Hosts

Traditional weddings have the couple’s parents as the hosts, putting their names at the top of the invitation. In some cases, couples can also host the wedding together with their parents.

If you follow this, it’s imperative to list the person hosting or paying for the wedding on the first line. These are some ways to word this part.

  • Use the word “and” between the names to imply the persons are married.
  • Keep the names of separated parents on different lines.
  • Include the word “late” before the deceased parent’s name.

The Request to Attend

The request line invites people to attend the wedding. This also sets the tone for the celebration, so decide whether to use formal or casual language. There are several ways to request the pleasure of your guests’ company.

  • Religious service: “Request the honor of your presence.”
  • Formal: “Request the pleasure of your company.”
  • Less formal: “Would love for you to join them.”
  • Casual: “Invite you to celebrate with them.”

The Names of the Couple

For some religious and common wedding traditions, the bride’s name comes before the groom’s name. For same-sex couples, you can choose to go alphabetical or with what sounds lovelier. Whether you want to include middle names or not, do whatever feels comfortable to you both.

  • The most common would be to use the couple’s first and middle names, followed by the line, “son/daughter of Mr. & Mrs. Smith”.
  • If you prefer a less formal one, you may only use first names.
  • Use courtesy titles, especially military and professional titles, like Major, Captain, The Reverend, or The Honorable.
Wedding invitation made for Jaqueline and Brian

The Date and Time

State everything the guests need to show up at the right date and time.

  • For formal weddings, write the date and time in full. For instance, if the wedding is on February 28, 2025, at 5:30 PM, the wording should read, “Friday, the twenty-eight of February, two thousand twenty-five, at half after five in the afternoon.”
  • Numerals are fine for casual ceremonies.
  • Spell the time of the day using “o’clock”. It’s optional to use AM or PM.
  • Capitalize the day and month, whereas the year should be lowercase.

The Location

It’s essential to list the ceremony location clearly to avoid confusion. Write the venue name on one line, with the city and state following on the line below. You may omit the street address unless you’re holding the ceremony at a private residence.

Reception Information

Traditionally, invitations should list the ceremony venue with the venue name on one line, then the city and state on another line. If you hold the ceremony and reception in the same location, you may use “reception immediately following”.

Dress Code

List the dress code after the reception location. Setting a clear wedding dress code or guidelines helps guests understand what’s expected of them in terms of wardrobe. 

Simply indicate if the wedding requires a black tie, semi-formal, or smart casual. You can also consider the season of the wedding, like winter formal attire or summer cocktail attire.

Examples of Invitation Wordings

Here are templates of wedding invitation wordings you can use and adjust to fit your invite’s tone.

Traditional Religious Wording if Both Parents Are Hosting

List your parents’ names on separate lines, starting with the bride’s parents.

Mr. and Mrs. Grace Cartwright

and Mr. and Mrs. Roberto Lopez

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their children

Angela Grace

and

Christian Matthew

Saturday, the Seventh of May

Two thousand twenty-two

half past five o’clock in the evening

Saint Michael Parish

Olympia, Washington

celebration following

Black tie required

Wedding invitation created for Eva and Zev

Traditional Secular if the Couple Is Hosting

If you’re paying for the wedding yourselves, skip the host line and start with a request line.

Shiella Mae and

Carl Cyrus

invite you to their wedding

July 30, 2023

Sunday at four o’clock in the afternoon

Beckenridge Vineyard

Dallas, Oregon

Dinner and dancing to follow

Summer cocktail attire

Casual Informal if Both Families and the Couple Are Hosting

If multiple parties host the wedding, start with the bride’s name and then the groom’s name.

Hosted by both families and the couple

Please join us

in the joy of celebrating

the wedding of

Naomi Eden 

&

Karen Elizabeth

Friday, October Fourth

Twenty twenty-four

at six o’clock in the evening

Margaritaville Lake Resort

Osage Beach, Missouri

Reception immediately following

Smart casual

Casual Formal to Include a Deceased Parent

A meaningful way to commemorate a deceased parent is to include the word “late” before the family member’s name.

Together with their families,

Jennifer Kirsten Kim,

daughter of Christopher Kim and the late Lorna Kim,

and Geoffrey Arthur Danvers

son of Mr. and Mrs. James Harrison Danvers,

request the honor of your presence at their marriage

Saturday, the seventeenth of December

two thousand and twenty-two

At six o’clock in the evening

Bear Creek Lodge

McCall, Idaho

Reception immediately after

Winter formal attire

Conclusion

Aside from choosing a custom wedding invitation, creating your own words for the wedding invitation is an exciting and personal part of the wedding planning process. Don’t forget to include vital details like your name, host’s name, wedding date, time, location, and dress code.

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